Time and time again you have probably heard the phrase Nice guys finish last; but I challenge you today to come to the realization that Nice guys don't necessarily finish last. In reality they aren't even in the race to finish at all. I'll get into that in a second, but on that note welcome to another Monday blog. This one is just a quick post as it was a concept that came to mind after talking to some fellow coworkers. Also apologies if this doesn't turn out to be one of my greatest blog posts as honestly i'm without light at the moment but i crave the internet so I have a makeshift daisy chain of surge-protectors and extension cords running from my land lord place so I can at least charge my gadgets.
Now fundamentally nice guys think they have it all figured out as to how they should treat a woman and all that is well and fine but what they fail to realize; myself in included as a born again nice guy is that not even women know what the hell they want in all honesty. It is for this reason that so much discrepancy exists in our world in the battle of the sex's and why it is a running joke that nice guys finish last and the assholes are winning. In truth and in fact is that assholes win the sprints but the nice guys tend to stay in it for the marathons. granted this kinda sucks because nice guys have to work twice as hard as assholes for roughly the same or lesser treatment but no one ever said life was fair. So above we have a pretty self explanatory expose into what a girl wants and needs right. Lets move on to hear what else they seemingly need.
So now we have basis for two viewpoints as to what women want from their men. I know its an established saying that women like a man in uniform but that ain't the type of soldier Destiny's child be singing about. They be about that thug life aka the hustler's ambition, granted that's fine as a good staple point of a man is the desire to provide and handle his "bizniz". One could surmise that honestly the less options you leave available for a woman the more she grows to appreciate and accept that which is in front of her. Granted that isn't always the best scenario for instance in a abusive relationship where the woman is being controlled to an extreme degree. Women do however gravitate to authority and assertiveness so we know that much to be true. Sadly its a thin line between being the man and being a controlling man based on what her current mood is. Lets take it a step further and see what else we can find that a woman needs.
So yeah if by this point you are confused then we are on the right track because Jah know I ran out of paper trying to write down all the stuff that these songs are saying are required of a man. Oh and let it be known that depending on the mood of the woman any or none of these requirements are expected to be met in full at a moments notice. WHAT, THE ACTUAL, FUCK?? So what can we take from this roller coaster of demands that need to be met in varying amounts for the variety of women in existence? Confidence is key; this is the number one reason why assholes win while nice guys are left to clean up the broken messes that they leave in their wake in the hopes of a better future. So we as nice guys need to take a page or two from the assholes and find a balance between the confidence and alluring machismo that assholes exude and the nice gentlemanly behavior that we hold near and dear to our hearts. Women like to have something to do/work on so you cant be the perfect gentleman and expect them to not get bored not having something interesting to hold their interest and tinker with. Women also need to wise out to the asshole tactics and realize the true value in a nice guy regardless if he doesn't have the alluring confidence that makes your panties wet saying all the right things. Nice guys are still learning and have flaws that can be tinkered with and worked on to your liking but with way less risk and heart break at the end of the road. Anywhore looking forward to hear y'all thoughts and experiences as such cause we are all here to learn so share the knowledge and opinions...
Now that I have your attention, welcome to another Monday blog for the month of April. Since i'm trying to somewhat practice for an upcoming tournament at the end of April Monday blogs might take a bit of a nose dive in quantity as my time is very limited between work and blog stuff. Just thought I would post this video as it pretty much sums up the bare and simple truth of the most effective way to be faithful in a relationship. Granted this video is for men it can just as easily be tweaked towards the ladies as well so please do give a watch and leave your thoughts in the comment section below.
OK so maybe my name is spelled wrong on this cake and maybe that isn't even my girlfriend but damn she winning major points in the best girlfriend ever category. It's Monday again so you know what that means; time for me to talk about some random topic to hopefully entertain and maybe even educate you. So oddly enough I have been single for about 4 months I think or something. Pardon the lack of time keeping but time kinda froze and jumbled together so don't really recall. Oddly enough recently someone asked me what I look for in a girl and if I was ready to start dating. If there's one thing I learned from my last relationship its probably that I shouldn't be in a relationship; cause honestly I'm starting to think that my idealistic fairy tale view of relationships on a whole is a bit misguided. Don't get me confused; I don't think its wrong I just accept the fact that what I expect of myself I probably shouldn't of others because they come from a different background so they have different values. Granted my views may not be that for all men but i'm of the opinion that on some level most men would probably agree with me. Enough of my rambling in any case the point is today i'm going to break down what makes the ideal partner for a man from my standpoint; feel free to disagree/agree as well as post your comment below giving your insight and opinion as well.
Everyone knows the standard definition of a lady in the streets but a freak in the sheets basically highlighting both sides to the perfect woman but what I am going to look at is the physical appearance and the personality. What really matters in a woman in truth and in fact is her personality but its not like they go around wearing their personality for the world to see. So we are at first as males attracted to the physical appearance and then after time we get to know the personality. Plus its way easier to break down the physical so we will start with that first:
PHYSICAL
Anywhere between 5"-5"10" is an acceptable height for a female based off the fact that the height of the average male is between 5"5" - 6". Anything outside this range is troublesome depending on your own height in relation. If she is too short it looks a bit awkward not to mention people as well as police officers might judge you without knowing the full story that you aren't actually a pedophile. If she is way taller than you it looks a bit emasculating for you as the man not to mention even the girl herself might be self conscious about towering over you and not being able to wear heels around you.
Long hair isn't so much a necessity but it is a big plus as a staple point identifier of a woman is her hair. Ideally one would hope to see shoulder length hair but due to society and fashion changing as always concessions have to be made somewhere so as a minimum neck length hair is pretty much acceptable. This is the perfect example of what I am talking about. This pic of Rihanna is perfectly acceptable as she still looks pretty feminine where we have an issue is when I can clearly see your scalp or you feel the need to carve out designs in your skull like a billboard. Still acceptable depending on the level of love but no way will it be better looking than long hair.
A womanly asset is key; this takes form in a variety of ways on a woman and is seemingly a major defining feature to define her femininity. The main ones that ideally we as men look for are; the breasts, the ass, the camel toe, the figure, the lips, the hips, the hands, the eyes, the clean skin, and the feet. (yes some guys are into that kind of stuff; don't judge). If you possess one or more of these in an above average manner you are well on your way to being the perfect woman. So give yourself a pat on the back; you deserve it.
PERSONALITY
Here comes the tricky part and possibly the part that's going to get me into a lot of trouble. I reiterate these are just the personal musings and ramblings of myself and the men out there that might agree with me so don't take them as gospel for all mean or think of us as trying to be chauvinistic. With that being said here we go:
An eagerness to please and loyal. Now don't get me wrong we aren't talking about like a stalker type level of omniscience where she just knows all the right things to do even though that would be pretty cool but more so just a show of dedication to pleasing and taking care of her man. Take up an active interest in something of importance to your man that he holds dear to solidify your inclusion in an important aspect of his life. Granted most men seemingly gravitate towards woman who exude qualities of their mother in the caring and nurturing manner but its what we as men grow accustomed to as children and as such we seek to at least recreate that genuine feeling of unbiased and pure love that most of us received from our mothers. Its a reason they say ain't no love like a mothers love but doesn't mean you can't try to emulate it as best as possible.
Submissive in nature. Men ideally don't like conflict especially with the fairer sex; as such a woman who is a bit submissive in nature is a big plus as it means she appreciates the role of the man in the relationship and family. It is up to the man to prove he is worthy of such submissiveness and show his worth as a man and care giver. A big part of which entails not taking advantage of the aforementioned submissiveness but realizing it is a gift and not something he is entitled to. If that worth is shown on his part then his just rewards should be this well worth submissiveness in all its glory. Now before anyone gets their proverbial panties in a bunch i'm not saying the man should own the woman and be all controlling and such cause that's not a healthy relationship. However the woman shouldn't constantly be having to argue with the man or make snarky comments or deny him of sex out of spite or cheat on him and all these other things that have seemingly become the norm n our society. You love and work it out or you leave and let it be, simple as that.
Confidence and open mindedness. Know your man and be proud of him in every way shape and form. At no point as a woman should you be in the relationship and not be thinking of how much you appreciate your man in comparison to others and cherish him all the more for the good that he does for you. If that is not the case and he isn't living up to or trying to live up to the standards of a good man then you need to have the confidence to let him know what you are feeling and what you need from him to make things work and give him the chance to prove himself as a man. Also when it comes to sex a mans greatest weakness is being seduced by a woman he has interest in. Many have fallen prey to the wiles of a confident woman who takes initiative, is open minded and leads him in all the right directions. Know that you are worth a mans time and attention and prove it.
Be caring and sentimental. You are a girl as such you are expected to be an emotional being even if you aren't in truth in grasp of your emotions. Give your man the chance to grow and experience your emotions with you so you can grow together. Men like attention so if you decide to pay him the right kinds of attention then we have all the more reason as men to want your presence around us and be with you even more. Any man can attest to the fact that a man would rather feel like his woman is annoying him and try to get space from her than feel like he has to beg for her attention or wonder where her attention actually is being focused. Men are really still kids at heart; its like we have a favorite toy that we play with till we see a new one we want to try out but then as soon as we see the old toy about to be played with we instinctively want it back. So we are all just looking for that special toy that served us well and got us through the hard times that we can cherish and revere.
I realize I might have rambled a bit trying to piece together my thoughts coherently to somewhat string this blog together and as such I posted the above picture that helps itemize somewhat the personality/attitude of the perfect woman. Granted some of these are done on a basis of humor but the idea is in the right place and displays most of the traits I mentioned. If at any point I lost or confused you in reading this blog feel free to ask individual questions in the comments section and i'll try to better answer/express my views on the specific matter. Granted I know we are all imperfect beings and all of what I said wont exist in one person but it doesn't stop an individual from trying to emulate as much of it as possible for the person you love and are in a relationship with. Any man who expects these from a woman should be just as exemplary in his duties as a partner and also strive to exemplify what it means as a man to deserve these things from his partner. Compromise is also key because some traits will be learnt over time and others can be improved upon if not quite at the level they need to be so that needs to be kept in mind. I as a man may not be perfect but i'm going to damn well try to be as close to perfect for the woman i'm with because she deserves nothing but the best that I can give. That is my duty as a man to care for my woman.
Hai Hai Hai!!! How y'all doing today? We have gathered together yet again for another random Monday blog; today we will see if we can take a step in the right direction to better understanding some quirks of the female character. Considering since I just got my hands on my copy of Lollipop Chainsaw i'm going to keep this short and sweet so I can can get back to gaming. Feel free to take offense to anything that is about to be said; as offense just like opinions are everywhere so feel free to voice yours if you feel inclined. With that being said I am going to post some vids for your viewing pleasure and then we will do a little yay or nay summary of the video...
Yay or Nay?: Nay. As funny as this was I gotta say Nay cause there is more exxagerated stories in this with not enough truth even though one or two of the points he touched on were spot on. Namely the objectifying of genders and how women tend to avoid directness at times. On to the next one...
Yay or Nay?: Yay. This holds so true most times in our society that its truly ridiculous. it more or less applies both ways but for now since we are on the topic of women we will look at it through the mans eyes. Many times men go the extra mile to do the right thing and take care of their partner and they are mistreated and taken advantage of. So sometimes even though its a battle to be fought by a knight in shining armor sometimes you aren't the right man for the job so you leave the task to someone better qualified.
Yay or Nay?: Nay. These dude have they pearls of wisdom most times but other times they go overboard with this shit cause they players at heart so they see things subjectively instead of objectively. So between all they bad past female experiences and living the single life their view of women as a whole is kind of skewered but then again women are pretty confusing one way or another most times. Just I would say you just got to hold out till you find that one that is worth you going crazy to try and understand.
Yay or Nay?: Yay. Men are simple creatures; which is probably half the reason we find ourselves manipulated by women at times but we just can't cope with complexity when we see life so simply. This is what leads to a lot of the issues that arise between genders. Granted in this video they take a pretty brazen approach to most of their comments but sadly they are mostly true as I am sure whether through experience or knowledge both male and females can attest. Men see it as a simple acronym for what they want in a woman; G.O.O.D.H.E.A.D.
G - Gorgeous
O - Obedient
O - Open-Minded
D - Dependable
H - Honest
E - Educated
A - Affectionate
D - Dedicated
Anywhore; so much for keeping it short, feel free to leave your comments below on what you may agree or disagree with. If you are female and are willing to share your thoughts on how seemingly confusing you are at time then feel free to. Bear in mind that science itself has deemed that female are emotional by nature and make decisions/assumptions based on what they feel in the heat of the moment while men are logical and base their decisions/assumptions on facts or lack there of. So this is as usual just my opinion of the subject matter and how it applies largely to society as a collective; so i'll end this with the words of songstress Keri Hilson...
-cue the fanfare music- Ladies and gentlemen welcome to another random Monday blog, won't be keeping you too long today as I have a tournament I wanna practice for so need to make time for that. Wanted to write this blog earlier but with international "No Panty Day" and some other matters that took place I had to postpone it. Anywhore today we will be looking at one of the latest phrases to sweep the island of Jamaica. As you should have maybe surmised by now i'm referring to the above music video entitled Pum Pum Tun Up (Turn Up). Now I know I have some readers from across the waters and this may not exactly make much sense to you so I will try to take the time to explain a bit before we get to the meat of the matter so to speak. In my tiny island of Jamaica just like anywhere else we have slang words cast around in our culture as I am sure you do as well; here in Jamaica one of the slang words for a vagina is 'pum pum'. As such when females or males refer to a pum pum that has been, how you say deemed turned up then they are talking about the quality of the pum pum from a wide variety of categories. Whether it may be tight, sticky, meaty, tasty, etc. Granted this is a term of endearment when directed at a lady but some falsely seek to claim that the pum pum in question is truly in fact "tun up". We all know that every vagina is basically different and special in its own way but they all at some point or another share basic qualities. Here is a picture with just a few types that someone has taken the liberty to expound on:
For the full breakdown of each vagina from 1-30 go to:
So as you can clearly see there are lots and lots of types of vaginas. Just recently it was international no panties day on June 22nd and ladies the world over celebrated and joined the movement to show off their special place to the world. Now as great a day as this is some participation was over exaggerated by certain ladies and as such they weren't necessarily qualified to be that proud showing off their goods. As such various mediums came forward to make it known just exactly what criteria needed to be met and what determines if the pum pum in question is 'tun up'. Shoutouts to kevin2wokrayzee and goonstandup aka Trabass_TV for their comedic and truthful views on the subject matter of their video. Hopefully my foreign readers will have no issue understanding.
With that lil tidbit out of the way lets get back on track; back to the turning up of the pum pum. I don't how this came to be so popular or when girls stopped using the car types to grade their pussies; with terms Benz punnany and Taxi punnany, but it is clear that they have no moved on. Typically with slang it is open to a wide variety of uses and interpretation but lets see if we can narrow down a clear cut criteria to base using the term 'pum pum tun up' for. Sadly i'm noticing that there is seemingly no clear cut negative term for the turning up of the pum pum but I guess logic would say that its a turned down pum pum I guess. Somehow it doesn't seem to have the same power behind it and I guess that is why every one is throwing around the term loosely. This is where our next video comes into play to help breakdown some of the do's and don'ts of a pum pum weh tun up; pardon the patois I just got tired of trying to say that in proper English.
With all that said and done I hope we have all learnt something whether you are male or female and you can effectively classify the quality of any pum pum in question and educate other on the subject matter as well. As always thanks for reading if you made it this far and hopefully you were entertained somewhere in between the top of the page and this last word here...
P.S. OK so I lied about that being the last word; if you didn't enjoy the blog though here is a smiley face just for you ^_^. Bitches love smiley faces....
