Which Is Worse?

I been thinking of late about a lot of things but mostly about life and love. I think ideally that's just something that will always be a source of deep thought and consideration amongst us human. You know how they say "its better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all?" Well I have been thinking and wondering why if this is so people make it seem so hard to love someone or at the very least love a person in return. Which brings me to my initial thought about love and how funny it is; because to love someone is the easiest thing to do even though so few do it but its the maintaining and receiving of love that is truly the hard part.

They say the crappiest feeling in the world is the feeling of unrequited love; loving someone with your all and not having that love returned in kind. In a situation as such though their are two parties feelings to consider as with most things in life; there will always be two sides to the story. So that then begs the question which is worse? The person who doesn't return the love and affection being shown to them or is it the person that is showing the love while expecting it in return but not actually considering the other persons feelings? This is quite the scenario as its very situational depending on the viewpoint of the people within the relationship and those outside the relationship. So lets take a look shall we...

At is the perfect equation when you can put two people together that love and respect the love they have for each other. Knowing that you have that level of loyalty and give and take your faith in yourself and your partner is unshakable and able to stand the test of time no matter the scenario. Sadly in our current society this is becoming less and less of a standard and more and more of an anomaly. When one person gives their all for another but that person holds back the love they should be sharing it causes an imbalance in the relationship that leads to a mountain worth of problems. Most times these problems lead to the eventual end of the love being shared and typically leaves the primary lover feeling confused, and betrayed. Confused because they still love the person even though they feel used which leaves the feeling of betrayal. This however doesn't only happen in relationships as even before that aspect of a relationship is agreed upon friendships and acquaintances can end up in this similar scenario where one person is constantly giving and the other is constantly receiving. As individuals to avoid a situation as such I think we should always be evaluating the relationships we keep with people and ask ourselves what we are doing or could do to maintain the balance of being a giver or a receiver. You must restore order to the force...

Sometimes in life your expectations don't match up with the realities of life you face. A prime example of this is happens in relationships a lot, balancing your needs with the expectations of your partner going as far as being more of a lady or gentleman. You may know what you want or hope for but actually factoring in the harsh realities of life and circumstance can quickly squash any of those hopes and dreams. So one has to think if they are willing to compromise for the sake of their partner. Another dilemma of love now arises where you can either decide to live with the faults and work on them or be your own person and do as you please. We already know there is potential for a happy ending if you choose the first option so what we are gonna look at is the second one. They say if you truly love something you should let it go and if it comes back to you it was always yours. I kinda think that's bullshit cause if it was yours then they should have realized that long ago and wanted to continue remaining yours. Ignorance really is no excuse for stupidity but I usually forget that humans are strange and erratic creatures so they can't be expected to always function as the high brain function species they are. With this in mind the ultimate sacrifice is loving some one so much you realize even thou they are what you need you aren't what they need. You make a decision to let them go find what it is that they need, this way your love for them to be happy is fulfilled even if its not with you. This is something that you have to live with everyday for the rest of your life so it is not a sacrifice to be taken lightly.

So after all is said and done which do you consider worse? Loving and not being loved or loving and having too come to the realization that your love is lost ad giving it up? For me i think having to give up on your love is way worse because you have to live with the unanswered questions and wonder what could have been had it all gone according to plan. What do you think? Leave a comment with your view and why.

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The Simple Truth

Now that I have your attention, welcome to another Monday blog for the month of April. Since i'm trying to somewhat practice for an upcoming tournament at the end of April Monday blogs might take a bit of a nose dive in quantity as my time is very limited between work and blog stuff. Just thought I would post this video as it pretty much sums up the bare and simple truth of the most effective way to be faithful in a relationship. Granted this video is for men it can just as easily be tweaked towards the ladies as well so please do give a watch and leave your thoughts in the comment section below.

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Precisely Perfect Partner

OK so maybe my name is spelled wrong on this cake and maybe that isn't even my girlfriend but damn she winning major points in the best girlfriend ever category. It's Monday again so you know what that means; time for me to talk about some random topic to hopefully entertain and maybe even educate you. So oddly enough I have been single for about 4 months I think or something. Pardon the lack of time keeping but time kinda froze and jumbled together so don't really recall. Oddly enough recently someone asked me what I look for in a girl and if I was ready to start dating. If there's one thing I learned from my last relationship its probably that I shouldn't be in a relationship; cause honestly I'm starting to think that my idealistic fairy tale view of relationships on a whole is a bit misguided. Don't get me confused; I don't think its wrong I just accept the fact that what I expect of myself I probably shouldn't of others because they come from a different background so they have different values. Granted my views may not be that for all men but i'm of the opinion that on some level most men would probably agree with me. Enough of my rambling in any case the point is today i'm going to break down what makes the ideal partner for a man from my standpoint; feel free to disagree/agree as well as post your comment below giving your insight and opinion as well.

Everyone knows the standard definition of a lady in the streets but a freak in the sheets basically highlighting both sides to the perfect woman but what I am going to look at is the physical appearance and the personality. What really matters in a woman in truth and in fact is her personality but its not like they go around wearing their personality  for the world to see. So we are at first as males attracted to the physical appearance and then after time we get to know the personality. Plus its way easier to break down the physical so we will start with that first:

PHYSICAL

• Anywhere between 5"-5"10" is an acceptable height for a female based off the fact that the height of the average male is between 5"5" - 6". Anything outside this range is troublesome depending on your own height in relation. If she is too short it looks a bit awkward not to mention people as well as police officers might judge you without knowing the full story that you aren't actually a pedophile. If she is way taller than you it looks a bit emasculating for you as the man not to mention even the girl herself might be self conscious about towering over you and not being able to wear heels around you.

• Long hair isn't so much a necessity but it is a big plus as a staple point identifier of a woman is her hair. Ideally one would hope to see shoulder length hair but due to society and fashion changing as always concessions have to be made somewhere so as a minimum neck length hair is pretty much acceptable. This is the perfect example of what I am talking about. This pic of Rihanna is perfectly acceptable as she still looks pretty feminine where we have an issue is when I can clearly see your scalp or you feel the need to carve out designs in your skull like a billboard. Still acceptable depending on the level of love but no way will it be better looking than long hair.

• A womanly asset is key; this takes form in a variety of ways on a woman and is seemingly a major defining feature to define her femininity. The main ones that ideally we as men look for are; the breasts, the ass, the camel toe, the figure, the lips, the hips, the hands, the eyes, the clean skin, and the feet. (yes some guys are into that kind of stuff; don't judge). If you possess one or more of these in an above average manner you are well on your way to being the perfect woman. So give yourself a pat on the back; you deserve it.

PERSONALITY

Here comes the tricky part and possibly the part that's going to get me into a lot of trouble. I reiterate these are just the personal musings and ramblings of myself and the men out there that might agree with me so don't take them as gospel for all mean or think of us as trying to be chauvinistic. With that being said here we go:

• An eagerness to please and loyal. Now don't get me wrong we aren't talking about like a stalker type level of omniscience where she just knows all the right things to do even though that would be pretty cool but more so just a show of dedication to pleasing and taking care of her man. Take up an active interest in something of importance to your man that he holds dear to solidify your inclusion in an important aspect of his life. Granted most men seemingly gravitate towards woman who exude qualities of their mother in the caring and nurturing manner but its what we as men grow accustomed to as children and as such we seek to at least recreate that genuine feeling of unbiased and pure love that most of us received from our mothers. Its a reason they say ain't no love like a mothers love but doesn't mean you can't try to emulate it as best as possible.

• Submissive in nature. Men ideally don't like conflict especially with the fairer sex; as such a woman who is a bit submissive in nature is a big plus as it means she appreciates the role of the man in the relationship and family. It is up to the man to prove he is worthy of such submissiveness and show his worth as a man and care giver. A big part of which entails not taking advantage of the aforementioned submissiveness but realizing it is a gift and not something he is entitled to. If that worth is shown on his part then his just rewards should be this well worth submissiveness in all its glory. Now before anyone gets their proverbial panties in a bunch i'm not saying the man should own the woman and be all controlling and such cause that's not a healthy relationship. However the woman shouldn't constantly be having to argue with the man or make snarky comments or deny him of sex out of spite or cheat on him and all these other things that have seemingly become the norm n our society. You love and work it out or you leave and let it be, simple as that.

• Confidence and open mindedness. Know your man and be proud of him in every way shape and form. At no point as a woman should you be in the relationship and not  be thinking of how much you appreciate your man in comparison to others and cherish him all the more for the good that he does for you. If that is not the case and he isn't living up to or trying to live up to the standards of a good man then you need to have the confidence to let him know what you are feeling and what you need from him to make things work and give him the chance to prove himself as a man. Also when it comes to sex a mans greatest weakness is being seduced by a woman he has interest in. Many have fallen prey to the wiles of a confident woman who takes initiative, is open minded and leads him in all the right directions. Know that you are worth a mans time and attention and prove it.

• Be caring and sentimental. You are a girl as such you are expected to be an emotional being even if you aren't  in truth in grasp of your emotions. Give your man the chance to grow and experience your emotions with you so you can grow together. Men like attention so if you decide to pay him the right kinds of attention then we have all the more reason as men to want your presence around us and be with you even more. Any man can attest to the fact that a man would rather feel like his woman is annoying him and try to get space from her than feel like he has to beg for her attention or wonder where her attention actually is being focused. Men are really still kids at heart; its like we have a favorite toy that we play with till we see a new one we want to try out but then as soon as we see the old toy about to be played with we instinctively want it back. So we are all just looking for that special toy that served us well and got us through the hard times that we can cherish and revere.

I realize I might have rambled a bit trying to piece together my thoughts coherently to somewhat string this blog together and as such I posted the above picture that helps itemize somewhat the personality/attitude of the perfect woman. Granted some of these are done on a basis of humor but the idea is in the right place and displays most of the traits I mentioned. If at any point I lost or confused you in reading this blog feel free to ask individual questions in the comments section and i'll try to better answer/express my views on the specific matter. Granted I know we are all imperfect beings and all of what I said wont exist in one person but it doesn't stop an individual from trying to emulate as much of it as possible for the person you love and are in a relationship with. Any man who expects these from a woman should be just as exemplary in his duties as a partner and also strive to exemplify what it means as a man to deserve these things from his partner. Compromise is also key because some traits will be learnt over time and others can be improved upon if not quite at the level they need to be so that needs to be kept in mind. I as a man may not be perfect but i'm going to damn well try to be as close to perfect for the woman i'm with because she deserves nothing but the best that I can give. That is my duty as a man to care for my woman.

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Valentines Day In All It's Glory

Well Its right around the corner yet again; Valentine's day!!! A day specifically tailored for like, lust and love. Many people around the world celebrate this day and it is more or less recognized globally as a day for confessions and expressions of love for single people and couples alike. As with all things in life you have people for and against Valentines day however; no matter how valid or lame your reasoning might be there is one thing that should always remain constant and that is your willingness to express your love. Keep in mind however that your love may not be reciprocated in the way you expect or at at all.

Men the duty falls on our broad shoulders and on a portion of ladies as well to find the perfect gift to express your innermost feelings to that special someone. Single people should try to find a common ground when buying a gift that gives the impression of intimacy yet doesn't overstep the boundary of being too intimate. Couples on the other hand should do their best to make there significant other feel extra special even more so than they usually do; especially highlighting memories shared and times gone by. The traditional gift for valentines day is typically chocolate and roses but this should not be the entirety of your gift one should take care to include something personal and significant to set your gift aside form all others that may come along. Don't get me wrong chocolate and flowers are always well and nice and appreciated; especially by the ladies but you want to leave a long lasting impression that will hopefully linger till next Valentines day.

Here a few tips for those last minute people out there:


1. NEVER WAIT UNTIL THE LAST MINUTE TO PREPARE FOR VALENTINE'S DAY!!!!!!


2. NEVER FORGET NUMBER 1.


3. Write a Poem or an expression of love that suits your personality


4. Share and engage in each others interests to deepen the personal bond between you both. eg. gaming, cooking


5. Utilize your own personal talents to make an extra special gift for your Valentine. eg. drawing a portrait or cooking a special meal.


Love is a precious gift that is freely shared and given so be sure to appreciate the day and all it is cracked up to be.....

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