This will be a rant; it may or may not make cohesive sense but you will figure it out. Search your feelings; you know it to be true. This post is just something on my mind I felt like getting off my mind hence it is off my mind and unto the internet commencing now...
Sadness, Angst, Depression; all these feelings and emotions that reek havoc on our fragile little human bodies. For whatever reason we all have these emotions at some point or another and as much as we would like to be able to get rid of them at the flip of a switch we sadly cannot. Relationships go sour, people in our lives die, tragedy strikes in our society; whatever the cause we need to not hide from our feelings but instead embrace them. We must do what we can to rationalize and put them into perspective so that we can retain some level of control in this ever spiraling world we live in. RIP Michael Clarke Duncan, you will be missed. So lets have a chat about relationship based sadness shall we...
LADIES DO NOT BE THE GIRL IN THE PICTURE ABOVE. Prevention is better than cure; if you want to keep a firm grasp of that special DICK in your life then be the type of lady worthy of said DICK. DICK's are a dime a dozen as are vagina's so the onus is on the individual in possession of such to ensure they find a member of matching quality to bond with. However once you find this DICK that you want to be yours you need to do all in your being to ensure you hold on to it while you determine if this is the DICK that compliments your vagina best for whatever reason. Men are very territorial beings and as such if you have been banned from said territory there is minimal chance of you being allowed back with the same rights and privileges you had initially. We are all only mere humans sadly and as such moments will arise when we fuck up in epic proportions. Two paths are put in front you as a girl that has wronged a man or been wronged by a man...
1) Fix what has gone wrong by seeking forgiveness:
This at times is the road most traveled by women; guys tend to be suckers for tears and at the same time when we feel betrayed or manipulated an apology or clear display or remorse goes a long way. No real man enjoys seeing a female cry deep down so do it long enough and you just may weaken his heart that has been hardened by your transgression. Granted you will have a lot of work cut out for you if you want to salvage what you so effortlessly jeopardized and threw away this is the first step on the road to recovering what it is you want to hold on to. THAT EVER LOVING DICK OF HIS THAT YOU DON'T WANT TO PART WAYS WITH. You are in for a bumpy ride as men are very paranoid by nature so you will have to go the extra mile to cater to and pamper him if you want things to gradually get back to the way things were. Make that DICK know that it is the one for you.
2) So now we look at what to do if you were the one who was wronged. Simply put this is way easier to deal with as you have a wide variety of paths to choose from depending on the type of woman you see yourself as. Lets examine the top three popular choices people make:
The Vengeful Path - this is where you set out to defame, slander, or degrade the public image of the person by whatever means necessary via propaganda, destruction of property, etc. LADIES DON'T BE A BITCH AND GUYS DON'T BE A BITCH NIGGA. This path is never the answer if you have self worth, show some decorum and choose a different path. Don't be that guy/girl to take back gifts and say the sex was bad and whatever; not cool man not cool.
The Confident Path - this is where you hold your head high and realize that you are going to be much better off without this trifling two timing DICK in your life. You have a moment of self reflection and examine the past grievances of the relationship without the rose colored glasses of love clouding your judgement. You realize it was for the best as you cut your losses and move on, thanking high heaven that you found out before the situation got any worse. This is the path you should be taking and the one your brain might tell you to choose but the heart is a fickle thing and it may lead you to the vengeful path.
The Loving Path - this is where you cant deny what you have shared with the person. All the history, memories, moments, time invested, money spent, relationships built, it all takes its toll on you and you try to look past the person's monumental fuck up and you forgive them. You don't necessarily forget as well but you decide to be civil with the person and try to rationalize the situation for better or for worse. Typically you take a small break apart and then find yourself not being able to function properly without the person. This is where this path breaks off into two more paths where you either resume your relationship hoping for better and not worse or you call it quits and learn from the experience for future reference. Just like the saying goes your ex is your ex because they are an example of what you shouldn't have in your life.
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Relationships either work or they take some work to make them work. Sometimes that means taking all the hardships that come along and having the determination to know that eventually things will get better. Granted not all relationships are salvageable and sometimes you got to know when to call it quits or you will be stuck in an endless cycle just on the receiving end of all the abuse that is being dished out. Know your limits and boundaries and act accordingly; also ensure your partner understands the same.
With all that being said I think I have said all that was on my mind regarding relationships, oh and before I forget any guys reading this can interchange DICK with VAGINA as it applies to them also. Always ensure you don't go into your next relationship with unnecessary emotional baggage that is going to cause problems for the new DICK that enters your life. If all else fails just remember that you have friends and family who love you and just stay away from relationships. Become a hustler...
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