Yes my friends its another Monday that finds us here alive and well for the most part, as we inch that much closer to the end of the world on December 21st. Life is a fickle thing, one moment all is well, you are enjoying life to the fullest and the next it sneaks up and bitch slaps you in the face. What is the meaning of life is a question that many people ask themselves sometimes going even further to wonder why its so hard for them and contemplate suicide. Today i'm gonna break down the stages of life everyone goes through so you can better prepare your mind/heart in those tough times of self doubt. Its going to be ok, the positivism of these singular moments far outweigh the negativity of the many bad moments. So just endure the waves of bullshit that come your way and strive for your special times. I like to call these 'Life Moments'; they are the important times to acknowledge on the journey of life till death.
'Life Moments'
Your first crush:
This can happen really early in life or a bit later on but it is an important moment of life as it is your first encounter with that inexplicable feeling call love. Now don't get me twisted i'm not referring to that idol love for your favorite actor or singer or such; I mean an actual person you have access to in your day to day life. Some get hit harder than others that first time around but its definitely one of those things that shape your life for the future. 9/10 if you ask someone they can tell you who their first crush was.
Puberty:
As Charles Dickens so eloquently said in his book 'A Tale Of Two Cities'; "It was the best of times, it was the worst of times,". This portion of your life is actually something to be happy about because it is like a rite of passage to usher you into a new age of existence and a new standing in society as a whole. Essentially like a caterpillar entering a cocoon to begin its metamorphosis into a butterfly. Even more so when you reach it before some of your peers and you notice certain things that you never used to before. Don't even get me started on the random hair growth; yikes.
Graduation:
No matter if its primary, secondary, or tertiary, graduating holds a sense of joy and fulfillment that you will take with you through the years. They hold both happy and sad attachments because not only do you achieve your primary objective but you also have to move on and leave all the memories and moments you have made. Yes you move on-wards to new experiences and possibilities but you also essentially start the process all over again of establishing an identity and persona in your next environment.
Losing your virginity:
This holds more significance to women because along side entering puberty this is another definitive moment for them. For men its just another rite of passage into manhood but regardless of the differences between the two viewpoints no one ever forgets their first; for better or for worst. This can be a traumatizing or enjoyable experience that shapes your perception of the opposite sex, your general sexuality as well as your open mindedness towards sex in general. This moment helps determine if you will be ok with what you are about to see our not.
Your first job/paycheck after moving out on your own:
This will be a crowning achievement for you solidifying the fact that you are your own individual off in the world making your own way. This validation is even more important if it was that you went all the way through school and attained a tertiary education as per your parents wishes and made them proud. Sadly that bitch slap I mentioned from life earlier has a way of sneaking up on you when you see how much of that pay check goes to taxes and your living expenses. Welcome to being an adult where you realize the government is your greatest enemy and friend...
Marriage:
Once again this one is a big one for the ladies. Funny how everything is such a big deal for them as individuals go figure. I guess life really does revolve around women after-all Females solidify their role as mother, wife, lover when this day comes. Most if not all females have if not fully at least partially planned this day from they were younger and most times its referred to as her day even though its her and the man that's getting married. Regardless it is a monumental occurrence that on the path that ones life will take.
Having children:
The is probably the most important aspect in the latter years of your life. It leaves a carbon stamp on the earth and space and time itself as you ensure your linage is carried on and your existence is not erased or forgotten over time. They are your legacy and essentially mark the continuance of the circle of life that started when you were born for your parents and so on and so forth. They begin their existence in this world and go through the same 'Life Moments' you did. With each generation, you as a parent aim to provide them with a better existence than you had through your wisdom, experience and provision.
Well I think that sums it up as far as i'm concerned. I know I might have missed some 'Life Moments' so to speak but I want to have a conversation with y'all so feel free to comment with what you might consider a 'Life Moment' we all have that I might have missed. Cause at the end of the day people still wonder what is the meaning of life and all it has to offer; they ask why are we here. Well today is your lucky day; since the world is going to end in a couple weeks anyways I might as well spill the answer...
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Bloody brilliant "42". Interesting that these life moments should be what gives us hope againt the despair of life itself when these moments or lack thereof is what causes most ppl to be sooo troubled by life itself. Think for instance of the fact that though parenthood is a defining life moment motherhood in particular can be so terrifying that it leads to not only serious anxiety but also terminal cases of depression. like you said some folks first sexual experience makes or breaks them for the rest of their life, this moment can be filled with so much anxiety that permance and enjoyment is seriously handicapped and this leads to life long far reaching confusion of sexuality which translate to morbid psychological issues. You see what I'm saying here? Of course regardless of the double edged potential of these experiences they do add immense meaning to life once one has the courage to move past the dread that these same emotions can create.
First crush is one thing but first love is definitely another wouldn't u agree? The intensity of your first crush pales in comparison to the blazing overwhelning intensity that most attributes to their first love. Call me religious but an excellent life moment is definitely experiencing the divine on a personal level, the idea of God as you leaned it from childhood up is great but when you finally find God on a personal level, when you meet him yourself... Now that's defining.
well said said as always Arnella. i agree that most are double edged swords in their own right but even then experience is gained by learning those tough lessons and growing from them. as far as the religious aspect goes I leave that to better learned people such as yourself to speak on. I thought about using first love instead of first crush but i feel its your first crush that teaches you what it is to crush and what it is to love so that you can experience your first love.
Another gud one RiRi. Arnella kinda hit the nail on the still. Wat about the very fist time u get ur heart broken. That experience can either breaks some people into some callus and bitter persons, or they can learn, grow and move on from it, either way i c it as one of life's moments that has a memorable impact. wat about the first time u watch porn or played a video game, some people are addicts up to this day. wat about wen u had ur 1st real kiss or even the time u accidentally flashed ur boobs to the entire scl. oh, thanx for playing that graduation song, they actually played that song at my graduation, sigh .... such bitter sweet memories. As for the rest of them some pepl still waiting for those precious moments to come through.
Heart break and kiss thing you mentioned falls under first crush because it leads to first love and first love usually leads to first heartbreak. as far as first time with porn goes i was gonna mention that but wanted to see which of my naughty little readers would bring it up first. congratulations you made me proud. ^_^. Wanted to mention video games but its a list of moments that can apply to everyone more than just something that can be singled out if you like or not cause not everyone gets exposed to video games but more people do experience most of the stuff on the list. umm not sure how the boob flashing comes into play but once again imma say congrats on bringing that to the table my naughty little reader; maybe a bit of a personal life moment you had there so thanks for sharing with us ^_^. and you are welcome for the song.
I have to admit that sadly one moment i will never forget is the first true act of violence i saw in Spanish town, man shot right in broad daylight and during the coarse of that day seeing the law retreat. Considering that i would on more than one occasion be on the receiving end of the law for no reason from time to time these two experiences give me a rather different outlook on the world.
Now that you think of it, there are so many life moments that makes and breaks us, defines us and tells what we believe in or what we stand for. I have to admit, Rion listed some very good ones. Arnella and Livie really picked up and continued. Zenbi just added additional reality to it all. I agree with Arnella tho, First Crush and First (Real) love (please no one start singing that song) are really 2 different stories.
But hey, at the end of it all, and I'm speaking personally, good and bad, life's worth living.
That is all
im searching for that real love. lol. epic song is epic.
and this is why Spanish Town has been forever crossed off my list of place to venture to.
Lol. I hear ya man. But yea the good thing is, I believe, that most, if not all, of us have experience one or more of these things this year.
Enjoy what's left of 2012 guys :-)