Wednesday, June 1, 2011

Mr. Nice Guy

Wow; can't believe its Wednesday already, time again for another random Wednesday blog. Today's topic 'Nice Guys'; something i'm sure we have all come across as men and women. Nice guy is a term in everyday life and in popular culture describing a male with friendly yet unassertive personality traits in the context of a relationship with a woman. A typical nice guy is perceived to put the needs of others before his own, avoids confrontations, does favors, gives emotional support, and generally acts nicely towards women. Before we go any further let me just add this disclaimer that I realize my views may be biased and as such welcome any and all comments concerning personal experiences on the topic and yes its not all nice guys that finish last just the majority. 

However the biggest controversy behind nice guys is the saying that "nice guys finish last". The "nice guys finish last" view is affirmed by most females as seen between women's stated preferences and their actual choices in men. In other words, women claim that they want 'nice guys', but really go for men who are "jerks" or "bad boys" in the end. Which leads into another societal conflict of interest concerning women not knowing what it is they really want. Definitely going to leave that one alone for some other time since I actually want to sleep tonight. As far as 'nice guys' go there are two kinds: the stuck in the friend zone type and the shy 'nice guy' type. Friend zone nice guy is the guy that you lean on when you have a bad day and just wanna talk or if you have problems with anything he is willing to help you out cause he cares, but when it comes down to it and he declares his feelings, you only see him as the guy that helps out and not the guy that can help out of your clothes. The shy 'nice guy' is the one that gets used by certain females who prey on his eagerness to please, esince he doesn't have the courage to say no because he feels grateful for the female attention even though its not the kind he should be getting.

With all the daily goings of the world its more or less clear that "nice guys finish last"; from the business world favoring employees with a competitive and killer instinct for business to females taking the bad boy type as thier first choice it is all around us. With this in mind it's not so much as to say its a bad thing to be a nice guy and we should all just go over to the dark side and not treat women right. Its just that we have to be patient and wait for females to experience the horrors of having an asshole for a companion and then see what should really matter in a man is not his swagger or sex appeal but the love and respect that the man will deservedly give unto her. I can only hope that as generations go by women will wise up and gain the ability to recognize the value and importance of having a nice guy for her partner because regardless what his short comings might be he will be willing to learn, grow, and adapt to best suit her needs and make her happy. Don't make mistakes with the asshole type thinking you can change him and only recognize the value of a nice guy after your heart has been used and abused. Make a nice guy your first option instead of your last, because we would much rather to be your first and last man than just your last man...


June 2, 2011 at 12:39 PM

well well well i can see where ur coming frm with this bt not all nice guys r treated this way im certain of that, n with pain comes knowledge n understanding so for some girls it might take awhile for them to really find themselves and wats best for them in most cases truly finding a nice guy.

June 2, 2011 at 12:51 PM

uhh im pretty sure in my disclaimer i said "and yes its not all nice guys that finish last just the majority."

June 2, 2011 at 12:55 PM

I'll go as far as to so that most women want the bad boy type. I've had the opportunity to speak to a few honest women and they said that the bad boy's make them feel safe and the like the whole rough, rugged aesthetic. Evolutionists will tell you that in humanity's early years those bad boy types were the ones who would most likely be powerful hunters and stuff so it was in a females best interest to hook up with them. Thus those genes are passed on to their off spring. Anthropologists say that the bad boys have more testosterone and that's what has the chicks going crazy.

June 3, 2011 at 10:28 PM

Poll on Have You Ever Turned Down A Nice Guy/Girl? ended with 6 votes for yes and 3 votes for no.

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