Wednesday, April 20, 2011

What Really Matters...

Ok, so your tired of being single or maybe you want a seemingly more meaningful experience than what you have become accustomed to; so you decide to get back into the dating scene in the hopes of finding the right partner for you. Whatever your criteria is we all have list of qualities that we are looking for, either its a big penis, thick lips or maybe you want a good Christian partner you can bring home to mom and dad, we all have a predefined perfect partner in mind that we want. However is that really the judgmental criteria we want to base our potential partner on right off the bat. Today we are going to look at some of the do's and don'ts that men and women should probably take into consideration before and during pursuing a relationship; most you should know already but there is nothing wrong with reinforcing the information.

So ladies your up first; now I know that every woman tends to be different but there are a lot of you in the world and some of you have to share the same if not similar qualities. Now I think I can safely say the majority of girls probably find this dude from Twilight pretty hot and minds have already started drifting but stay with me and refocus on the matter at hand. Everyone wants to be with someone that is good looking or great looking in his case but you should not make that the main qualifying trait to judge someone to be with. Like I said most should know this already but nothing wrong reinforcing the obvious; not all us guys can manage to look like this dude but for you we try. We know it helps grab your attention so we try to dress all cool and stuff so you will notice us so I implore you to work with a guy who is trying to be a proper gentleman (nice guy) even if he only can manage a two-pack and not the full 8 or 6. This goes without saying but please ladies never settle for being treated like crap regardless of the situation; just because he has a dick doesn't mean he is allowed to be one no matter how great he is. With that out of the way lets take a look at some of the things you can do to be a good girlfriend once you have found that person you want to be in a committed relationship with...

Now that we have touched on the women (*lol i said we touched the women*) lets talk about things from the mans point of view. Without a doubt that woman pictured on the left looks great; I have no idea of her personality or her background which is what should truly matter but seeing that kind of portrayal of her you cant blame me. Yes everyone loves eye candy but if your looking for a relationship its not so much about eye candy, its about a connection and finding similar and better traits in someone to be with that help complete you as a person. Whether she is really pretty or moderately pretty or average all girls deserve the right to be accepted and appreciated as they are. In todays society many women have some form of emotional baggage and we need to do our best as men to lighten that load instead of adding to it so that they themselves as women can grow and move past these issues that may be plaguing them. As men one of the most important things we need to remember is that we should love, honor and respect our females because they go through a lot on a day to day basis. As such one may run the risk of being called whipped or whatever but who are you trying to please in your relationship; your partner or your peers? Here's some tips to help you become a better boyfriend and in turn a better man...

The main cause for problems in relationships is the simple fact that males and females have different thought patterns and priorities. Any one event can be perceived totally different by a male and a female; this is due to the fact that males are logical creatures while females are emotional creatures. The sooner both parties can accept and understand this difference then the better they can cope and work together for the sake of each other and the relationship. Men should try to understand when something upsets your female counterpart even if you don't see the importance of it and just be there for her from an emotional standpoint to help her through the problem. Women if your man isn't seeing things from your point of view try not to take out your frustrations on him because at the end of the day if he is the man you have chosen to be with he should be the one that is always there at the end of the day to try and make things easier for you and help you solve whatever difficulties you are facing. A relationship is a two person team; one hand helps wash the other, I mean like can you sit there reading this and tell me its easy to wash your hand with the same hand? I did the math and thought about it and you can't; so hah!!
I'll end on this point; relationships are not easy, they require time, work and effort. That being said anything worthwhile is worth fighting for and that is the viewpoint one should take when in a worthwhile relationship. The aim is not to find your perfect partner as their is no such thing as a perfect person but instead to find a compatible partner that you can strive for perfection with as you support each other; flaws and all. Do not take your partner for granted for there will always be someone else at that exact given moment who is willing not to even if its only for that one moment.  Never forget the 3 C's: Care, Communicate, Compromise; the Christian affiliated can feel free to add Christ as a 4th C if they so desire. CARE enough to spend the time to try and COMMUNICATE with your partner, so that you can come together as one and COMPROMISE to solve the problem. Whenever things get tough think of all the good that you and the person have shared and ask yourself if you really want to throw that all away. A bird in the hand is always worth two in the bush if not more....


April 21, 2011 at 1:50 AM

hope the girls are listening

April 21, 2011 at 5:08 AM

i hope so too. also hope the men are understanding...

April 21, 2011 at 2:53 PM

sooooooooooo love this Rion. everything u said is true, n relationships are not easy, at all, but i think if u make up ur mind that is is the person that u want in ur life then it shud b worth fighting for, despite ur expectations and different perspectives and views, u work at it to understand each other and work thru the problems n obstacles. On another note, i realize that some guys( more them than females) feel that once they get the girl they don't need to even bother tryin to have a gud appearance which is bad,cuz as said in one of ur links, everyone likes to show off their partner. always try to keep a gud appearance, specially in public. n if ur at home just go

April 21, 2011 at 3:30 PM

why am i not surprised that you of all people advocating being naked at home lil miss lock herself up in her room naked. rofl. glad you like the blog. help send it to others and spread the knowledge so we can all be better people.

April 22, 2011 at 12:59 PM

well the 3 C's work and its nice to have someone to have n to hold n be comfortable with. if u find a person that even if ur about to loose them n ur feeling hurt inside and want to cry, u know that thats the person that is the right person for u the one that is most compatible and can keep up with all the bullshit that you do, then he/ she the one for u. DONT and i mean DONT loose that person, you will live to regret it.
this is a great blog for a man and a woman to read and learn from.

April 22, 2011 at 8:19 PM

This is an amazing blog The-R and coming from a man I must truly commend you. It takes a mature individual to look beyond the physical and profiling with their significant other. When I was younger I dated persons based on what they look like. No one wants to wake up beside Shrek but I've grown to look beyond the physical to whats inside a person and how they treat me and if that person looks like Shrek, I'm proud to call him my own. Selfishness is what makes relationships fail, it is all about what is important to 'me' and forgetting one of the big C..COMPROMISE.

In closing I say it takes a mature individual to keep a relationship and age doesn't make one mature.


April 22, 2011 at 9:17 PM

poll on What Matters Most To You When Looking For A Partner? ended with 6 people voting for Personality traits 0 for popularity, physical appearance and intellectual capacity.

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