Relationships & You...

The term relationship is defined as; the way in which two or more people or things are connected, or the state of being connected. We see above an example of how a relationship between two people can work; both parties working together to accomplish an objective. In our society and lifetime in general exists many types of relationships; with Valentines day less than a month away I figured I would take a bit to talk about the subject. Relationships exist at the most rudimentary level in our ecosystem and are listed in three main categories; commensalism, mutualism, and parasitism. Maybe after reading you might see the type of relationship you want or fit into...

Above we have the infamous Dutch Rudder; a move that is truly something special and rarely experienced. This maneuver is a perfect example of a Commensalism oriented relationship. This is where you have a relationship between two organisms in which one benefits and the other derives neither benefit nor harm. This can be linked to maybe what we see in a sugar daddy/mamma situation where the sugar person in question provides financial care with no expectations of a return on their contributions besides the persons happiness. My favorite celebrity crush Brianna Frost I know is fortunate enough to benefit from a relationship of this kind. Kind men from across the world send her donations through her site or buy her things off her Amazon wishlist and will probably never even get a hug much less to meet her in person.

The next relationship type we have to look at is the Parasitism type; this is when only one organism benefits while the other is harmed. Gold Diggers are toted as being women who forms relationships with men purely to obtain money or gifts from them. That sounds like a pretty on point example of a parasite just leeching on and sucking dry their source of sustenance. Maybe this hits closer to home and you might even know someone that is like this. Its odd how this type of relationship still exists in this day and age considering all the feminism that exists and pop culture boosting the idea of women being strong, single and independent. Small side note before anyone gets their panties in a bunch this applies to worthless men as well taking advantage of the same situation I just highlighted women for a bit since the song is focused as such accordingly. Something even as simple as a coworker or friend constantly using you for their own personal benefit and never truly contributing back anything for your sake can be deemed a Parasitism type relationship.

Finally we reach the pinnacle of relationship excellence, this is the stuff dreams are made of and the type of love that mainly existed back in the day and isn't as common in our society anymore. Had to save the best for last as we take a look at Mutualism based relationships. This is a relationship where mutual dependence is necessary to social well-being. Even though they exist in a video game the relationship between Mario and Princess Peach is truly one for the ages. A generation of games spanning decades and he always goes to rescue her and she always waits for him to rescue her. In all seriousness though a truly Mutualism based relationship is what we all should strive for where you feel complete because the other person makes your life whole and fills in the missing segments of your being. Saw this and I knew I had to include it in this post; granted no relationship will be perfect, but its the effort to try and make it perfect that gets it there or as close as possible...

Granted I know we started  this off based on Valentine's Day being around the corner and the basis of typical couple based relationships this can also be applied to your everyday interactions with people in society on a day to day basis. If you find yourself being take advantage of or using others based on the types of relationships try to make a conscious decision to fix your relationship and strive to maintain a balance where you can exist mutually. For every little you do for someone today; it's that much more you don't have to do for someone tomorrow...

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Step Yo Game Up If You Want A Better Prize...

So a couple weeks back I wrote a blog talking about women and what they want from a man. Granted it was quite the long winded expose of sorts but we somehow got through it in one piece; you can go check it if you haven't seen it here: http://zalgocometh.blogspot.com/2013/05/the-dilemma-of-nice-guy.html. With that being said on today's random blog-post I figured I would talk about the similar topic but from a different angle I have been thinking of. So I been thinking a lot about life and companionship and how as humans we really don't exist on this world to end up alone and without someone to compliment our personality and being as individuals. Sadly however this seems to have  become near impossible or at the very least increasingly difficult with each generation that passes. Whether this is due to feminism, a change in societal views or maybe we as men have lost sight of what a man should be and and woman should be but something has gone very awry. This current state of affairs leaves men asking the above "just what do these women really want from us?" but in reality we are more wondering why don't they want what we expect them to want?

Lets take it back for a second; kick it old school for a bit. Granted the olden ways may or may not be the best ways but if there wasn't some truth to the saying then it wouldn't exist in the first place. So back in the days of time long ago when we had kings and queens and prince and princess's and peasants and paupers; ok you get the idea . Back in medieval times granted women were somewhat repressed and not afforded most the opportunities men were but these were simpler times when all a man had to do was prove his valor to earn his fair maiden's hand in marriage; well that or slay a dragon I guess but ain't no body got time for that. Fast forward to the age of the 60's when it was all peace and love all around and people were way open and upfront with drugs, peace and love. There weren't really any rules or mixed messages you were just either down with the flower power or you were a square who was just a lackey for the government and against freedom.This was probably where the age of female empowerment and feminism started kicking off and would forever change the gender roles for years to come.

Salt N Pepa - Independent by jpdc11

So with feminism empowering women all the round world we saw a dramatic change in women and how they saw their roles in society. Somewhere along the line women started wanting to not only be treated equally but also allowed the same tendencies as men. Essentially becoming what they saw as a man and having that level of equality in their head. We see cases of this in the media such as the song above shows compound that with the thought with this new found independence and freedom the woman no longer even needs a man because she feels she runs shit and was truly meant to be a strong independent woman. Now i'm not saying there is nothing wrong with a woman wanting to have equal rights and self worth but I think when it gets to the stage where you feel you don't need or what a man or that none are out there for you that you need to realize that there is much fuckery afoot. Just because you are afforded some of the things men had over the years does not disavow the fact that at your core you are a woman and are held at such the standards that are what define a woman. As such men will still try to hold the door open for you at times or see you as the fairer sex and want to shelter and protect you. It is not an insult or a ploy to downplay your independence and strength because we as men all have and love our mothers so respect is always due in some way or another. So lets look at some of the things men hope for/expect from women.

No mind games, no second guessing, no hints just be open and upfront. All the years of feminism and equality talks and you want us to believe you don't have the confidence to this day to speak up? Nah; ain't nobody got time for that. If you are a blessed woman who actually knows what she wants you really shouldn't be downplaying your uniqueness and lowering yourself to the common woman's status. This is quite possibly one of the sexiest things a woman can do; when she exudes confidence she basically confuses the guy cause he is more than likely not used to a woman being like that; essentially being the hunter and not the hunted. Just know that the onus is on you to not only get but also hold on to the good in the man that you see and want for yourself. Once you accomplish this and essentially have secured your man you will bring out the best in him continually and he will do so with you continually to ensure both parties involvement and happiness. If you want something serious say you want something serious, if you want a fuck buddy then say you want a fuck buddy. Take nothing for granted and explain everything and you will see the quality of your life with men increase I guaran-damn-tee it. This is your first step to being more than a woman...

Once you have begun your journey to secure the man you so desire you have the maintenance aspect to ascertain. At the end of the day a mans desires or goals for interaction with a woman are usually pretty clear. He either wants sex, wants to be just friends, or wants to be friends until he can get sex with minimal complications. As such there isn't much guessing that needs to be done on the woman's part in terms of what it takes to keep and/or please your man; so this is why I feel the onus of the relationship initiation process should fall primarily with the female to ascertain whether or not her intended male is worthy of such from her. From there she can help the man to shape and improve himself to be the perfect match for her and she can provide the love and devotion he needs from her. You don't need the distractions of what is around you or may appeal to you because that will only lead to problems; people say they need space from their partner all the time which I think is dumb. If that's the case why the hell did you bother getting a partner if your space is that important to you in the first place. They say the devil finds work for idle hands but I say if you have your hands all around your partner loving them then what else you gonna go find time for?

Let me try to wrap this all up and hope I haven't confused and lost you by now. You know that saying if you think it you can achieve it? Well as cliche as that sounds its actually a reality but the problem is that figuring out what a lady wants when you aren't one is a tricky game. Most women either aren't sure what they really need or want a mid balance which is hard to achieve. They want a respectful man but in the same breath want a strong authoritative man who will tell them what to do but still somehow not ignore what it is that they want in the process. They want a man that will listen to them rant and complain but at the same time not point out the flaws and fallacies of what they are complaining about. they want a man who is great at sex but also respectful of her body and when it is she wants to have sex or not even though a man has a much higher sex drive than a woman in most cases. The list goes on and on, balance isn't impossible in some cases but have you ever tried balancing a father on a needle? that shit ain't easy; so I feel its better to eliminate the second guessing and just let the man know straight up what it is he is getting himself into and working towards securing for himself and his future. Let him know what he is making a decision towards putting up with for the future to come. Courting is most definitely still a man's responsibility but the onus is on the woman to guide and give feedback along the way to show that whatever effort the man is to make is abundantly worthwhile and necessary because you are more than a woman. 

So basically if tldr; watch from the 1:13 mark cause it will eliminate a lot of the unnecessary relationship head games:

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The Simple Truth

Now that I have your attention, welcome to another Monday blog for the month of April. Since i'm trying to somewhat practice for an upcoming tournament at the end of April Monday blogs might take a bit of a nose dive in quantity as my time is very limited between work and blog stuff. Just thought I would post this video as it pretty much sums up the bare and simple truth of the most effective way to be faithful in a relationship. Granted this video is for men it can just as easily be tweaked towards the ladies as well so please do give a watch and leave your thoughts in the comment section below.

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The Times Are A Changing

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Just Gonna Let These Gentlemen Handle This

Well its Monday so you knows we gotta talk about some shit that everyone can relate to but mostly more something for the ladies to read that isn't video game related. First thing i'm going to mention is something I just saw. I feel like its something that most should know but need to be reminded from time to time about, so i'm going to say a few words about it and let you see what I saw that made me want to share it with y'all. So first of all...

That ladies is how you make your significant other feel whenever it is that you deny him the pleasure of  enjoying your body/company/vagina/comfort/presence/etc. Mostly when it is that we want sex and you aren't in the mood though. Now no one is saying that you are obliged or being forced to carry out any of the aforementioned because it is your body after all and you are a loved and respected partner in the relationship. What instead we ask is for you to understand the simple mechanics behind a relationship and how men see certain aspects of a relationship as such. As a man in the relationship we see ourselves having certain duties that we need to fulfill, common ones are being there for you, providing for as many of your needs as possible, defending your honor if needs be etc. A woman also has similar duties/responsibilities comfort, adoration, sex, cooking and so on and so forth. These things have been long since established by society and are not to be taken as disrespectful gender roles but instead as loving guidelines to a happy relationship. Now we all know circumstances are a bitch and things wont always go the intended way but at the end of the day one does not simply walk into Mordor (shoutouts to the LOTR fans out there). So both parties need to understand this first and foremost but what causes a source of contention is when circumstances get more commonplace than the norm which is to be taking place. Hopefully by now I have enlightened you to live a better life with your partner or I have sufficiently confused the fuck out of you. If its the latter fear not as not all men were created equal so let me allow someone else to explain it to the ladies and conversely men as well for it applies to both so to speak.

So yeah; that was courtesy of Trabass_TV. You can follow him on twitter and subscribe to his youtube channel; he is a pretty cool dude. So with that over and done with lets go on to the next one...

With all that touchy-feely stuff out the way I want to talk about perception for a bit. Perception; the ability to see, hear, or become aware of something through the senses. In essence i'm mostly focusing on common sense in this case. If you can perceive yourself as anything what would it be? Many different answers may come from asking this but the real question is do you perceive yourself as a noun or a verb? Or maybe what you question is not how you perceive yourself but truth be told how you want other people to perceive you. This probably doesn't make much sense to you right now but just bear with me for a sec and keep that in mind; after watching this next video it should all make sense.

Ding ding ding!!! So back to what we were saying before; whatever answer you came up with initially what are you actually doing to make that perception a reality for others to see. What makes you personify that which you believe in so dearly? I hope you really took what he said to heart because as much as its funny its pretty much true and its something we each have to look into ourselves and ask. Anywhore this has been your moment of clarity; I command you now to go forth and bring the word of reason to many other still lost in the sea of laziness. Ideally you would be getting a visit from your future self to tell you at some point in your future to shape up and be less of a failure, but since we aren't sure if time travel is gonna be invented lets just skip all that and get cracking on making our future self as awesome as possible.

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