The Dilemma Of The Nice Guy

Time and time again you have probably heard the phrase Nice guys finish last; but I challenge you today to come to the realization that Nice guys don't necessarily finish last. In reality they aren't even in the race to finish at all. I'll get into that in a second, but on that note welcome to another Monday blog. This one is just a quick post as it was a concept that came to mind after talking to some fellow coworkers. Also apologies if this doesn't turn out to be one of my greatest blog posts as honestly i'm without light at the moment but i crave the internet so I have a makeshift daisy chain of surge-protectors and extension cords running from my land lord place so I can at least charge my gadgets.

Now fundamentally nice guys think they have it all figured out as to how they should treat a woman and all that is well and fine but what they fail to realize; myself in included as a born again nice guy is that not even women know what the hell they want in all honesty. It is for this reason that so much discrepancy exists in our world in the battle of the sex's and why it is a running joke that nice guys finish last and the assholes are winning. In truth and in fact is that assholes win the sprints but the nice guys tend to stay in it for the marathons. granted this kinda sucks because nice guys have to work twice as hard as assholes for roughly the same or lesser treatment but no one ever said life was fair. So above we have a pretty self explanatory expose into what a girl wants and needs right. Lets move on to hear what else they seemingly need.

So now we have basis for two viewpoints as to what women want from their men. I know its an established saying that women like a man in uniform but that ain't the type of soldier Destiny's child be singing about. They be about that thug life aka the hustler's ambition, granted that's fine as a good staple point of a man is the desire to provide and handle his "bizniz". One could surmise that honestly the less options you leave available for a woman the more she grows to appreciate and accept that which is in front of her. Granted that isn't always the best scenario for instance in a abusive relationship where the woman is being controlled to an extreme degree. Women do however gravitate to authority and assertiveness so we know that much to be true. Sadly its a thin line between being the man and being a controlling man based on what her current mood is. Lets take it a step further and see what else we can find that a woman needs.

So yeah if by this point you are confused then we are on the right track because Jah know I ran out of paper trying to write down all the stuff that these songs are saying are required of a man. Oh and let it be known that depending on the mood of the woman any or none of these requirements are expected to be met in full at a moments notice. WHAT, THE ACTUAL, FUCK?? So what can we take from this roller coaster of demands that need to be met in varying amounts for the variety of women in existence? Confidence is key; this is the number one reason why assholes win while nice guys are left to clean up the broken messes that they leave in their wake in the hopes of a better future. So we as nice guys need to take a page or two from the assholes and find a balance between the confidence and alluring machismo that assholes exude and the nice gentlemanly behavior that we hold near and dear to our hearts. Women like to have something to do/work on so you cant be the perfect gentleman and expect them to not get bored not having something interesting to hold their interest and tinker with. Women also need to wise out to the asshole tactics and realize the true value in a nice guy regardless if he doesn't have the alluring confidence that makes your panties wet saying all the right things. Nice guys are still learning and have flaws that can be tinkered with and worked on to your liking but with way less risk and heart break at the end of the road. Anywhore looking forward to hear y'all thoughts and experiences as such cause we are all here to learn so share the knowledge and opinions... 

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So, Are You Back For More?

Hey you there; come here a second. Closer, take a look over here. Yep you guessed it; another Monday blog post...

So last week we talked about some shit I don't like and it seemingly went somewhat well enough. Actually got some of y'all to take the time to respond and post comments as well so that's always nice. Anywhore this is basically part two so proudly presenting for your entertainment more shit I don't like.

Condescending Assholes:

Don't know how many of you remember this commercial but it was all the rage back in the day. Now I am not saying you shouldn't have pride in a skill or talent by any means. What specifically I am referring to that I don't like is people who are overbearingly judgmental of other people when they themselves know that they aren't much better or in some cases any better than the person they are judging. Perfect example would be those girls that have the time to chat and gossip about other girls live and tease and ridicule them when their life really is not better off so they feel this innate need to belittle others just so they can feel better about their pathetic existence. Come on at least try to be a good enough person so the next generation doesn't have to suffer for your stupidity. Please and thanks...

Bandwagonists:

Next on the list we have the aforementioned wagonists of the band species. Now to be fair we all have our bandwagonist moments. For the few people that may not know a bandwagonist is someone who mindlessly goes along with an action or idea, without any real reason other than other people are doing it. The latest reason this pisses me off is all the people that jumped on the Oppa Gangnam Style song that took the world by storm over the last month or so. Let me just go on record saying that if at this stage you do not have even an inkling of what Oppa Gangnam Style is then please go kill yourself if you are under the age of 30 because obvious you serve no purpose in this age of technology. Anywhore all these people that at first when the song came out hated it or thought it was stupid suddenly started going around talking about how its an awesome song once the song went mainstream and blew up. These people make me so angry I want to punch a baby in the face; do you have any idea how angry one has to be to punch a baby in the face? No? Didnt think so; that's pretty freaking angry. So to all those people and yes you know who you are a big "fuck you" to you "Oppa Gangnam Style!!!"

Posers/Faker:

A poser is someone who tries to fit into a profile they aren't. People who try to give off the impression that they are one thing when they are really another. We see them everyday; the girl that has to have all the latest clothing and accessories to show the world how well off she is; or the guy that randomly enters a conversation awkwardly trying to fit in and be a part of the group. This is ever more so prevalent in our schools as this is technically where the young minds of our future are shaped and grown. which sadly is also why most of life turns out to be just like school; one big popularity contest. We live in a world where individuality is reprimanded and uniformity is heralded, for we are all sheep to be herded by the guile of society. By all means though have the common sense to think for yourself and see what fits within your individualism. Its a reason certain uniformity is needed in society as rules are meant to guide us, but certainly not to rule us; this is why they are also called guidelines. Don't find yourself in a situation like Clarence where your eagerness to fit into a role you aren't meant for is exposed...

Well that takes care of that, as always your comments and thoughts are encouraged and appreciated. For those experiencing Hurricane Sandy in the USA at the moment I hope this could put a smile on your face and/or entertain you as you strap in for quite the ride. It hit Jamaica pretty bad but we are rebuilding and restoring all that was lost as best we can. So keep calm and carry on; you are a first world country so I have faith in y'all, you shouldn't have third world problems like our tiny island so all the best to you.

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