What Really Matters...

Ok, so your tired of being single or maybe you want a seemingly more meaningful experience than what you have become accustomed to; so you decide to get back into the dating scene in the hopes of finding the right partner for you. Whatever your criteria is we all have list of qualities that we are looking for, either its a big penis, thick lips or maybe you want a good Christian partner you can bring home to mom and dad, we all have a predefined perfect partner in mind that we want. However is that really the judgmental criteria we want to base our potential partner on right off the bat. Today we are going to look at some of the do's and don'ts that men and women should probably take into consideration before and during pursuing a relationship; most you should know already but there is nothing wrong with reinforcing the information.

So ladies your up first; now I know that every woman tends to be different but there are a lot of you in the world and some of you have to share the same if not similar qualities. Now I think I can safely say the majority of girls probably find this dude from Twilight pretty hot and minds have already started drifting but stay with me and refocus on the matter at hand. Everyone wants to be with someone that is good looking or great looking in his case but you should not make that the main qualifying trait to judge someone to be with. Like I said most should know this already but nothing wrong reinforcing the obvious; not all us guys can manage to look like this dude but for you we try. We know it helps grab your attention so we try to dress all cool and stuff so you will notice us so I implore you to work with a guy who is trying to be a proper gentleman (nice guy) even if he only can manage a two-pack and not the full 8 or 6. This goes without saying but please ladies never settle for being treated like crap regardless of the situation; just because he has a dick doesn't mean he is allowed to be one no matter how great he is. With that out of the way lets take a look at some of the things you can do to be a good girlfriend once you have found that person you want to be in a committed relationship with...

Now that we have touched on the women (*lol i said we touched the women*) lets talk about things from the mans point of view. Without a doubt that woman pictured on the left looks great; I have no idea of her personality or her background which is what should truly matter but seeing that kind of portrayal of her you cant blame me. Yes everyone loves eye candy but if your looking for a relationship its not so much about eye candy, its about a connection and finding similar and better traits in someone to be with that help complete you as a person. Whether she is really pretty or moderately pretty or average all girls deserve the right to be accepted and appreciated as they are. In todays society many women have some form of emotional baggage and we need to do our best as men to lighten that load instead of adding to it so that they themselves as women can grow and move past these issues that may be plaguing them. As men one of the most important things we need to remember is that we should love, honor and respect our females because they go through a lot on a day to day basis. As such one may run the risk of being called whipped or whatever but who are you trying to please in your relationship; your partner or your peers? Here's some tips to help you become a better boyfriend and in turn a better man...

The main cause for problems in relationships is the simple fact that males and females have different thought patterns and priorities. Any one event can be perceived totally different by a male and a female; this is due to the fact that males are logical creatures while females are emotional creatures. The sooner both parties can accept and understand this difference then the better they can cope and work together for the sake of each other and the relationship. Men should try to understand when something upsets your female counterpart even if you don't see the importance of it and just be there for her from an emotional standpoint to help her through the problem. Women if your man isn't seeing things from your point of view try not to take out your frustrations on him because at the end of the day if he is the man you have chosen to be with he should be the one that is always there at the end of the day to try and make things easier for you and help you solve whatever difficulties you are facing. A relationship is a two person team; one hand helps wash the other, I mean like can you sit there reading this and tell me its easy to wash your hand with the same hand? I did the math and thought about it and you can't; so hah!!

I'll end on this point; relationships are not easy, they require time, work and effort. That being said anything worthwhile is worth fighting for and that is the viewpoint one should take when in a worthwhile relationship. The aim is not to find your perfect partner as their is no such thing as a perfect person but instead to find a compatible partner that you can strive for perfection with as you support each other; flaws and all. Do not take your partner for granted for there will always be someone else at that exact given moment who is willing not to even if its only for that one moment.  Never forget the 3 C's: Care, Communicate, Compromise; the Christian affiliated can feel free to add Christ as a 4th C if they so desire. CARE enough to spend the time to try and COMMUNICATE with your partner, so that you can come together as one and COMPROMISE to solve the problem. Whenever things get tough think of all the good that you and the person have shared and ask yourself if you really want to throw that all away. A bird in the hand is always worth two in the bush if not more....

KNOWLEDGE; USE IT OR LOSE IT...