To Thump Har Up Or Not To Thump Har Up??

This has truly been one hell of a week so far for me on Facebook and the internet in general with the main theme so far being cheating and abuse in relationship. Be forewarned some of the video's used in this blog will over time get removed so hopefully your reading this and they still work. The previous song seemingly vulgar/violent in content affectionately entitled "Thump Har Up" is actually a song about sex and ensuring one does it well; I would be lying if I said I didn't initially think it was about abuse. Sadly this rough love of sort seems to be the new 'in thing' from Vybz Kartel's song "Rampin Shop" to Bounti Killer with his alleged 'hammer' incident to the latest dancehall craze 'daggering'. Here in Jamaica we have over the years stuck to the olden ways of a patriarchal society (yes I know some might have to Google that so just click it for the definition) as with most societies; for whatever reason religious or otherwise it has been how we were born and raised. Over the years abuse in relationships has become more and more commonplace at an alarming rate and is always a controversial topic mired in the abyss of societal degradation. Growing up most if not all men at one point or another are told not to hit girls as they are the fairer sex and are not to be treated in such a manner; my own mother even went a step further to tell me not to do it to something as lowly as a dog. Somehow along the way unfortunately whether through society or personal experiences that clear cut instruction has been twisted into varying degrees of acceptance, from not unless the woman hits you first to unless they provoked you in some manner.

I'm sure alot of people by now have seen the video of the man in Jamaica beating his woman over breaking his chain, retaliating (provoking him) and having a next man (allegedly). If not view it here...

This is truly deplorable and wrong in all senses of it, but yet one has to wonder why the entire community is on the side of the man. Now seriously this man went about handling this situation the wrong way, even if she overstepped her boundary and disrespected him, she did not deserve to be treated in such a manner, however in the heat of the moment both parties involved and the community at large reacted poorly. Which leads me into my next rant about relationships and being faithful. For arguments sake lets call the next three main people Jose, Rosita and Manuel in order of appearance.

Now as bad as that was I kinda had to as a man be on Manuel's side because honestly Rosita kinda had that coming. Jose is kinda in the clear as most times in situations like that cause he the man and just taking advantage of the situation. Manuel realizing this directs all of his attention and anger to Rosita in a pretty brutal manner. Why do females feel the need to be with one man and go dance with another and vice versa? Might as well have stayed single and danced on whichever anonymous penis/vagina you feel like I think. In this day and age I notice this trend that women tend to want to have it all but there's a saying that "if you want it all you will lose it all". Before I get tons of hate mail from females let me just say I am a man so I can only speak from that perspective so feel free to comment and shed light on your side of the rainbow. At the end of the day lots of good men and women are out there giving their all in the relationship only to end up being used or taken for granted as seen in the aforementioned video. It's in situations as such where the line between whats right and wrong is blurred in terms of how far and wrongly the man reacts. If you are with someone you should be with them and them alone because you saw something in that person that you valued and wanted to have for yourself as it should be. So why would you want to risk losing that connection?

Yes I know i'm kinda making you read more than I usually do today but this is a very prominent topic especially this week cause i mean it's like three new videos and its only freaking Wednesday. That's like one a day or something if my math is correct. As such in this final video we see a different take on things with a mother and daughter seemingly fighting over the same penis. Yes you heard me right; mother and daughter. Tis a sad, sad world we live in when mother and daughter have to share the same penis...

In closing for the love of God; just be the best partner you can be to your significant other; don't give them a reason to doubt you, mistrust you, or feel neglected by you. Try to practice and apply the 3 C's in your relationship as best you can: Care, Compromise & Communication. Make the relationship work for both of you because regardless what crap you may think about the opposite sex being dogs or bitches everyone needs someone. So why not make yourself that person for someone so they can do the same for you? If there is something missing from your relationship don't go out to seek it with someone else; ascertain how you can best get it from your own relationship and if it just cannot be done do the right thing and make a clear decision to love or to leave. You can compromise but you can't have it all your way; relationships and Burger King are two totally different things. Even Jesus needed God and look how powerful he was; the man could freaking raise the dead for christ's sake...(pun intended)